There are people that come into our lives and completely change us for the better. Anne of Green Gables calls these individuals bosom buddies or kindred spirits. For the sake of this friendship, I’ll use her term kindred spirits. However, these kindred spirits seem to be exactly what you need, and you find yourself instantly best friends. Your spirits just click as if you knew each other before. These kindred spirits help you to progress, and you feel like you have a trust from the start. Today, I’d like to bring the world into the adventures of one of my kindred spirits, KIR.
I first met him the week after graduation. I was confused and broken hearted. All of my friends from my program had gone in different directions. My best friend moved to California with his family for a summer job. My roommates all moved out and went in different directions. For the first time in my life since coming home from my mission, I found myself completely alone. I still had my longboarding home girl and her roommate was just placed in my ward (both of which would help me grow this summer, too). However, I didn’t want to be clingy and I found myself praying for a friend to be brought into my life. I didn’t feel comfortable living on my own and I asked the Lord for a roommate. Both prayers were answered with the blessing of KIR.
The day he moved in, I thought he was a different race because of the spelling of his name. I didn’t actually see him, but I saw his stuff. I was a bit let down that he was white when I met him, but was ready to say hello to him. First couple of days, I did my own thing and left him alone. The introverted person in me wasn’t ready to be a friend. Rather, I came home on a Saturday after going to the temple to him and his sister playing Just Dance in the living. They invited me to play and I was about to say no, but for some reason I said yes. From that moment on, we would find that we are very much the same person. I started inviting him to eat dinner with me and family dinner was a way to get him to interact with me. I also began to write him notes in the morning since I left before he did. It was something that I saw on Friends and have been doing it for a while, now. I invited to all the activities that I was invited to so he didn’t have to stay at home alone.
We bonded on a connection that both of us were in love with individuals that had moved to serve the Lord and do something beyond selfish. Broken hearted and unsure how to take on the world, we found ourselves ready to move on but not sure how to do it. So, we started setting dating goals for each other and holding ourselves accountable on the opposite sex. We were able to be there for each on the nights that our broken hearts were overly broken and needed someone to talk with. We were able to be a support system for one another each Monday. When the letters would come in the mail box or the email, there would be someone to talk to that you knew was going through the same thing. We helped each other by creating all sorts of dating activities: Spoon Under The Moon, Squeeze and Please, or Have a Cookie Take A Lookie. All these activities were so that we could meet girls to date.
Our love for the Savior allowed us to help each other progress spiritually. Previous to being roommates, we both came from roommates that made it hard to focus on the spirit. We found ourselves in ruts and unsure how to get out of them. Rather, we were blessed to have a desire to help one another to set goals and account each night on them. We created plans on how to be better. The love of the gospel of Jesus Christ allowed us to have much fun together. I found it fun to take pictures of him while sleeping in church. He never could make it all three hours without snoozing off.
Now as all young men do, we had lots of fun doing all sorts of things. One of our last night’s together, we thought about many of our adventures together. Of the many things, there were three main themes: sports, girls, and movies. There was never two people so dedicated to the world cup! You bests be believing that the two of us were up early every Saturday to watch the first game. We dove into that three-week tournament like it was the last thing on the earth. We created a new game called tennis soccer. We longboarded while shaking our butts down state street. We did a lot of long boarding till I got in a long boarding accident that left me rather bruised, cut, scrapped, and in pain (rather funny though). We excelled at ultimate frisbee. We allowed sports to be a way to take the stress away from our day to day lives.
We laughed hard at inappropriate movies and jokes. We laughed each night talking before going to bed. We laughed so hard that we turned red and cried many times. We laughed in church and we laughed while cooking together. Our friendship is so special to me because it brought laughter back into my life. I LOVE to laugh! Everyone that has heard me laugh knows that I have a loud laugh that is best termed as a cackle. It’s the thing that get me into trouble and either makes me friends or has people making fun of it. In school, I would get so serious that I forgot to laugh. My apartment had become unhappy and I found myself unable to laugh. Being able to have a friend that was willing to laugh as loud as me was a sheer joy in my life. I don’t remember what we laughed at most of the times, but I sure do remember how hard they were. I feel like when I laugh, I am truly being myself.
Before I knew it, my catch phrases started to be apart KIR’s normal life. I started to hear him say the words that I use daily like “yeah, yeah”. We started to rub off on to each other that we became the same person in no time. A true friendship. We found music was a way to connect. Before we knew it, we were singing along to songs like Girls Like You by Maroon 5, Straight to Hell by Darrius Rucker, I Could’ve Been Your Girl by She & Him, FallInLove2Nite by Prince, and Sunrise, Sunburn, Sunset by Luke Bryan. I had a three-week moment where I was obsessed with New Girl and somehow that spilt into our lives. Like this one time, I was singing the theme song loud out the door and offended this girl. It became the joke of the summer. We watched a lot of movies together. Our favorite was the new Christopher Robin movie, hence a Winnie the Pooh Quote in the front.
The adventures have come to a slow as we have both moved out of the apartment that brought us together. We have gone in opposites directions of the state. However, saying goodbye wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be. When my best friend and I stopped being companions on the mission, I had a feeling that he was still going to be a major part of my life and he has been. I got that feeling again. So, buckle up KIR, cause the adventures are just starting. I am so grateful for this kindred spirit in my life and the many lessons that I have learned from him so far. I am thankful to have a friend that answered so many of my prayers to my Heavenly Father. My life is truly better because of KIR.
Thank You, Old Sport!